Was it Love, or Was it Not?!

In this ultra modern era, no real love story has a happy ending. On an average, every man and woman goes through at least 2-5 relationships (serious or not, that depends) before ending up in marriage. I have no idea the number of relationships they get into after that ;) . So, for every one successful love story, there must be 2 to 5 not-so-successful love stories. All the movies, novels and songs highlight and praise that one love story that finally materializes into marriage. But what about the love stories that doesn’t work out? Just because those relationships didn’t work out, they don’t qualify to be called love?

They say that if it is not forever, it is not love. But I think the concept is totally stupid. It is same as saying that if you didn’t come first, you have not studied well; or like if it is not sweet, there is no sugar; or like if there is no sun in the sky, it is not day; or like if it is not flooded, it is not raining, or like if it is not forever, it is not hatred. C’mon, get real dude! Life is not a binary choice- either-or types. There are things in between. Love is one of them.

You got to agree with this. When you fell in love for the first time and every time, didn’t you feel like that person was the person you always wanted, that person is the ‘Love of Life’? Didn’t you give your hundred percent, doing crazy and stupid things to impress him or her? Didn’t you feel that excitement and that frenzy inside your heart all that time? Didn’t you feel ‘Love’? Yes, indeed you did. But just because it didn’t work out properly and ended abruptly possibly hurling abuses at each other, it couldn’t be called ‘Love’?

You have to face it- the reality and the practicality. Sometimes, while working through the files in office, or while cooking dishes at home, or while making presentations for the seminar, or while writing essays during exams, or while partying late night in the disc, you think of those moments, the moments of love, and miss them. And then, you end up being confused- Was that love, or was it nothing?

Let me clear out your dilemma. It was love. Yes, it sure was. You have to accept it and let it sink in your system. You have to understand that all that was, was nothing less than love. And it wasn’t for nothing. It was for that moment, that time that became so precious and memorable simply because you were in love. That moment and that time might have passed, but in your mind it lies so fresh. It was for that moment of love.

You have to cherish that moment of love, and you have to keep it safe within you. Because not only it defines you, it makes your present worth living. Once you start cherishing those moments, you will let go the feeling of regret and guilt that had occupied your heart and had made your present miserable. Then you will realize that it was all for that moment, that precise moment of togetherness.

Love will happen many times in one’s life. And each time it will only get better, till it finally works out properly and you end up in marriage. (This includes arranged marriages too). But that doesn’t give you the authority to call the rest of the previous relationships as trash. Those relationships were full of love- THEY JUST DIDN’T WORK OUT.

So stay happy, enjoy falling in love, and respect the relationships you had. Be strong enough to live with the fact that it didn’t work out just because it wasn’t meant to be, and no one is responsible for it. Be mature enough to honestly accept that you made mistakes and similar mistakes were reciprocated. Be humble enough to learn from your mistakes. Be bold enough to admit that it was love.

And, most importantly be grateful that you were blessed with love so damn many times!

With that wonderful overwhelming feeling of love, this is Prasanjit Saha signing off. Have a great day ahead! Ciao!

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I. ME. MYSELF.

It may sound like that, but this little poem is not about me. It is about YOU. Your spirit, your courage, your determination of not giving up. Almost everyone of us sometimes look into mirror and talk to ourselves, albeit subconsciously...especially during worst times of life. 

This is a straight salute to all of you, for not giving up.

"I saw myself, looking at me, with utmost expectations. I realised that I depended totally on me, and there was no other person who could support me and help me, besides myself.

There was no other, and there will be none.

It was always me, alone in my prison.

Locked away from the entire world while I was alone with my thoughts mundane

I realised that no one could take me out of my grief, and this unendurable pain.

While, I, besides myself, totally depended on me,

“Me” being the master of my fate, had to decide what it would be.

I decided I would never rely on others,

And I would be bold when I face life’s trials and tribulations.

When I myself would depend on me,

No one else would become my priority.

I would never look down upon myself,

Supporting myself, I would never expect any stranger’s help.

Besides myself, I would always be there;

Be the weather rough, be the weather fair.

I won’t let anyone tell me I cannot.

I know I can do it, no matter what.

If I love myself and trust myself, and no one else but me

In spite of all my drawbacks, shortcomings and idiosyncrasy,

I have a strange gut feeling inside me deep

That, then, Victory will come to me and kiss my feet."

-Prasanjit Saha

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Craters on the Black Moon (Photography)

Ever since I read "A Black Moon Odyssey", a novel written by Mr. Anirban Roy, I had this insurmountable urge to photograph the moon just the way it was described in the book. Though I am a novice in photography, and that too a self-trained one, but trust me when I say this: photographing the moon is not at all an easy task!

There are certain things you need for this:

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