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In this ultra modern era, no real
love story has a happy ending. On an average, every man and woman goes through
at least 2-5 relationships (serious or not, that depends) before ending up in
marriage. I have no idea the number of
relationships they get into after that ;) . So, for every one successful
love story, there must be 2 to 5 not-so-successful love stories. All the
movies, novels and songs highlight and praise that one love story that finally
materializes into marriage. But what about the love stories that doesn’t work
out? Just because those relationships didn’t work out, they don’t qualify to be
called love?
They say that if it is not
forever, it is not love. But I think the concept is totally stupid. It is same
as saying that if you didn’t come first, you have not studied well; or like if
it is not sweet, there is no sugar; or like if there is no sun in the sky, it
is not day; or like if it is not flooded, it is not raining, or like if it is not
forever, it is not hatred. C’mon, get real dude! Life is not a binary choice-
either-or types. There are things in between. Love is one of them.
You got to agree with this. When
you fell in love for the first time and every time, didn’t you feel like that
person was the person you always wanted, that person is the ‘Love of Life’?
Didn’t you give your hundred percent, doing crazy and stupid things to impress
him or her? Didn’t you feel that excitement and that frenzy inside your heart
all that time? Didn’t you feel ‘Love’? Yes, indeed you did. But just because it
didn’t work out properly and ended abruptly possibly hurling abuses at each
other, it couldn’t be called ‘Love’?
You have to face it- the reality
and the practicality. Sometimes, while working through the files in office, or
while cooking dishes at home, or while making presentations for the seminar, or
while writing essays during exams, or while partying late night in the disc,
you think of those moments, the moments of love, and miss them. And then, you
end up being confused- Was that love, or
was it nothing?
Let me clear out your dilemma. It
was love. Yes, it sure was. You have
to accept it and let it sink in your system. You have to understand that all
that was, was nothing less than love. And it wasn’t for nothing. It was for
that moment, that time that became so precious and memorable simply because you
were in love. That moment and that time might have passed, but in your mind it
lies so fresh. It was for that moment of love.
You have to cherish that moment
of love, and you have to keep it safe within you. Because not only it defines
you, it makes your present worth living. Once you start cherishing those
moments, you will let go the feeling of regret and guilt that had occupied your
heart and had made your present miserable. Then you will realize that it was
all for that moment, that precise moment of togetherness.
Love will happen many times in
one’s life. And each time it will only get better, till it finally works out
properly and you end up in marriage. (This includes arranged marriages too).
But that doesn’t give you the authority to call the rest of the previous
relationships as trash. Those relationships were full of love- THEY JUST DIDN’T
WORK OUT.
So stay happy, enjoy falling in
love, and respect the relationships you had. Be strong enough to live with the
fact that it didn’t work out just because it wasn’t meant to be, and no one is
responsible for it. Be mature enough to honestly accept that you made mistakes
and similar mistakes were reciprocated. Be humble enough to learn from your
mistakes. Be bold enough to admit that it was love.
And, most importantly be grateful
that you were blessed with love so damn many times!
With that wonderful overwhelming
feeling of love, this is Prasanjit Saha signing off. Have a great day ahead!
Ciao!
See Also: Mujhe Jeena Hai
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